d/dx(Friendship and Love)=0

Author's Pov:

I know just looking at the title some of you got curious, especially those who can relate to it. On the other hand, some of you felt cringe, especially the ones who absolutely hate these kinds of stuff. Moreover, some of you might think “Oh no! Why is the author stuffing differential equations in a relationship?” Oh come on, I am a reader too XD! I know what you all may think. You will find the reason why the title looks like that after reading the whole blog. Before you start reading the central part of the blog I would like to mention why I have chosen this topic. 

The main reason for choosing such a topic is to make readers analyze their friendship and relationship. Relationships among people became so complicated especially among the young generation that they seem so depressed to me. They often mix up friendship and love together. Both are different. I know relationship problems aren't the only reason for their depression. There can be other reasons too. 

Another reason for choosing such a topic is the constant rise of the divorce rate, According to the 2022 Census of Bangladesh, a total of 0.42 per cent of people are divorced and 0.37 percent are separated, which made me think if two persons are not exactly sure about their feelings and relationship then why do they get married and later get divorced? I feel like everyone is taking relationships lightly whether it is friendship or it is about love life. It’s just my view, some of you might not agree with me and it’s completely fine. To sum up, I felt like I should at least try to convey positive messages to the individuals reading this blog. I hope it will help to bring out a positive change.

My first question for the readers is- “What do you understand by friendship?”

Friendship is a relationship between two or more people who share common interests, values, and experiences. It's characterized by mutual respect, trust, and support, and it can be a source of joy, comfort, and growth throughout our lives. It is one of the most beautiful bonds between two people. When your friend is sad, you will eventually understand something is wrong and will try to make your friend feel better, and vice versa. 

Friends are like your siblings from another mother where you argue with your friends and do lots of mischievous things and pranks but at the end of the day, you know how much you care for them, how much each of those individuals means to you, and how they brighten up your day. There’ll be tons of happy memories, sad memories, and mischief. 

You’ll always wish good for them and seeing them happy will make you happy. After your family, if there is another group or individual that can make you feel like home is your friend. Sometimes, there can be problems going on between you and your friend but that doesn’t stop you to wish good for your friend. If any conflict is going on between you both, you’ll sit, talk and sort it out, just because your friendship is too precious to you. 

My second question for the readers is- “What do you understand by love?”

Love is a special kind of friendship where two persons have complete trust, respect, care, and intimacy between them. It’s one of the purest bonds between two people. It’s like choosing a partner for the rest of your life with whom you can share all your happiness and sadness especially, someone you can share your life with, someone who will share his/her old days with you and will be with you for the rest of your life.

And this kind of relationship is secured by marriage where both are committed to each other. It’s like a promise to each other to seal the deal. There’ll be ups and downs in the relationship but both of you will know how to make it work. You will eventually understand how much your partner means to you, how much you love him/her, and vice versa. 

Where the love will be constant, where you both will look after each other with so much respect and care, where both of you will be the most important person to each other among the family members, and where life will be incomplete without one another. That’s what love means.

My third question for the readers is- “If friendship and love are two different things, then is it possible to have romantic feelings for your friend?”

Yes, it is. It is possible to fall in love with your friend. I mean if both are in love with each other then they should take that chance and work on it. It’s even better if your life partner is your friend, it will help both of you to have a better understanding. But it is also quite possible that one of you fell in love and the other did not. 

In such cases, friendship may become awkward and lose its glow. The bond may start to disappear between you two. I believe that everyone should normalize falling in love with his/her friend. I mean it’s completely fine to have romantic feelings for your friend. We all are humans with a heart full of emotions. Instead of letting the friendship break apart, you should ask yourself, “Is it worth losing that bond?” There is always a way to make it better. Moving on from the person you fell in love with, isn’t easy but you should try to work on yourself and choose someone who’s actually willing to be the love of your life. In this case, the only suggestion can be, “Be with someone who’s willing to be with you till your last days.” 

My fourth question for the readers is- “How to find out if the friendship or relationship is toxic or not?”

If you are being abused mentally, physically, or verbally whatever the relationship is, it is absolutely toxic. If your friend or partner is letting you down, insulting you in front of people, and using you for their own interests then there is actually something wrong with that relationship.

When a friendship or relationship is one-sided, it starts to become toxic. Because only one among two puts effort into that relationship. At a point, things start to become worse and the friendship or relationship feels like a burden. If you think that it is your partner’s or friend’s responsibility to make you happy then you are absolutely wrong. You are burdening your partner or friend with a responsibility that I believe no one can handle for such a long period of time. If it continues to happen for a long time then the relationship will start to turn toxic.

No one is responsible for his/her friend’s or partner’s happiness. Instead of making relationships or friendships toxic, you should know yourself first. Who are you? What do you expect from yourself? Are you on the way to be a better version of yourself? What makes you happy? Who do you want in your life? You have to be clear about your feelings and emotions because you can’t ruin someone’s life by dragging them with you in any relationship. And I guess it will save so many couples from getting divorced as well as will save many from ruining relationships and getting mentally disturbed. You can have mental breakdown many times in a week but you can’t put that blame on your friend or partner. Just sit down, talk with each other, and sort it out. If both of you feel like it is not working out then you can part ways from that toxic friendship or relationship. 

In conclusion, 

There is always a way to make things better. Expectation kills happiness. Great things come unexpectedly. Affection and care will automatically come from your friends or partner if it is genuine. Everyone should be appreciative and thankful to each other. 

A kind gesture can make any relationship better. Always try to be a better version of yourself. Learn to value relationships. Learn to respect people. No matter how bad things get, always try to be kind. Spread goodness and positivity. 

And now I would like to reveal why the title looks like that! XD Basically, your true friends and life partner won’t leave your side no matter how bad the situation is. They are the constant people in your life. According to the differential equation, the result will be zero if you differentiate a constant value. So, I differentiated Friendship and Love to stand a point that true friends and life partner are constant. That’s how the idea of choosing the title came to my mind….XD !!!

Anyway, I hope you all liked the blog. You all are allowed to give feedback in the comment section. Thanks for reading!